Hope Wissel, Recovery

Why is Trust Easier Than Faith?

Faith is “complete trust or confidence in someone or something”.

Trust is “firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something.”.

Why is it so much easier to trust someone or something than it is to have faith?  I will be honest, the two words sometimes get confused in my head.  Nothing unusual with the onset of MS….

We trust every day – driving on the highway a car won’t cross the line, flying in a plane we won’t crash – yet when it comes to having faith in a Higher Power (I chose to call God), we want more.  I often hear individuals talk about struggling with the idea of a higher power, of having faith there is something greater who is loving and caring.  Yet, we readily jump in the back pockets of other recovering addicts “trusting” they will lead us in the right direction since they have some clean time.  It is a very fine line but who doesn’t like the thrill of walking a tightrope without the chance of falling.

Life has had its ups and downs lately.  Nothing dramatic and probably no more than usual. The impact my relapse has had on my life (and my relationships) rears it ugly head some days which can send me spiraling.  Life on life’s terms was never promised to be easy.  I have faith God will restore relationships completely when the time is right.  I have faith he wraps his loving arms around me, giving me comfort when I am weak and struggling.  I have faith he will help me close the door on Debbie Doubtful and Negative Nellie when they come to call.  I have faith when the time is right those relationships will be restored and all will be well.  I also face the fact, they may never look like what I want them to be but I trust it will be right for those involved.

Today, I don’t have to be the selfish, self-centered person I was (I want what I want when I want it). I wanted to fix, manage and control situations and people so I could feel better.  I can change.  It took me a long time to totally understand how self-centered I was.  My justification used to be to make a list of the things I did for everyone else, or to sacrifice what I wanted to do, so how am I being self-centered?  I have learned to trust others when they point out this definite character flaw.  It is my faith which allows me to believe they were brought into my life for a reason.  See the fine line???

As the world reels from the “virus”….. “who do you trust?” “do you have faith?”.  Are you being negative and jumping on the anger wagon during this crisis?  Does this “interfere” with your life?  My one day at a time perspective and the inability to remember things has helped me keep a positive attitude in light of all of the negativity.  Showing kindness towards others in dark times is more important than ever.  Thanking those who are working hard to stock shelves.  Thanking those who are helping others who can’t get out.  Stopping by my favorite small business to share some “angel love” and support them during this difficult time.  I trust we will get through this.  I have faith this is a blessing in disguise.  Sometimes darkness needs to come before there is light.  Look at the positive side of all the closings.  Be grateful you have a home to go to.  Be grateful you have family to be locked in with -even if we may want to kill them.  LOL.  Be grateful there is some food and some toilet paper.  Please no hate mail.

I know I have probably squirreled throughout this post but my heart was heavy this morning thinking about things.  As we start to talk and plan hubby’s retirement, the “woulda, shoulda, couldas” come along.  I loose focus on who I am becoming, loving myself (okay I will start with liking myself) and start to force the memories of the past.  Struggling for memories brings frustration which brings negative thoughts and questions everything.  It is only when I trust in my Higher Power and have faith he will restore those memories if and when the time is right, I find peace.

If you are struggling with faith, look for the little blessings in your day.  What you call coincidences, I call blessings or your Higher Power at work.  Maybe your Higher Power is a loved one who passed.  Maybe it is your dog.  Yup, it can be anything or anyone you want it to be who is greater than you.  I’m a visual person since processing words is tough anymore… so someone holding the door, a random smile from a stranger, a hug from another recovering addict, a random call or text from someone you haven’t heard from in awhile… These things are blessings from a power greater than yourself.  Are you struggling with finding supplies during the “stocking up”?  Maybe someone shares their toilet paper or drops off a meal for your family or gives you the gallon of milk from their cart.  These are all your Higher Power at work.  Have faith, even as small as a mustard seed……….they are really tiny!  All things are possible.

Check out of my favorite songs.  Listen and trust there is a plan for all of us…

So, just for TODAY, will you join me in trusting your Higher Power has a plan for you.  He will guide you when you swerve off course as long as you EMBRACE his love and open your heart to all he has for you.  As you do this, your faith will grow just like the mustard seed.

Have a blessed day!

Hope Wissel, Relax, Reflect, Recharge


“The fulfillment of God’s promise depends entirely on trusting God and his way, and then simply embracing him and what he does.  God’s promise arrives as pure gift.” Romans 4:16 The Message

Sunday morning, a day to reflect, relax and recharge.  This has been a busy week and I am feeling VERY blessed.  Here are some of the things that I am thankful from this week:

  • Hubby got a GREAT report from the Cardiologist.  We are now ready to plan our first trip in a year.   Hopefully, for my birthday in May to North Carolina
  • Closed my first party of the month which put me within a stone’s throw of my personal PV for the month.
  • I got another NEW recruit this week.
  • I was able to get some extra hours at WAWA to help with some bills
  • I got an extra day off with hubby to just enjoy each other’s company
  • Helped launch my newest recruit with a Facebook party
  • With the help of some AMAZING leaders at Weight Watchers, I am back to attending meetings and have the NEW plan. With just a little bit of work (I need to loose about 1.5 pounds), I will start maintenance next week (if I am at the doctor’s goal weight for me).
  • Started my Vi Challenge with some AWESOME products with the help of my AMAZING daughter, Belinda
  • Booked a May party to kick off the NEW Thirty One Summer catalog

Okay, so they all may be material things but these “material” things have helped to rely and trust on God more than I ever had in the past.  I know it sounds crazy.  I am a visual person and although I know that God blesses me EVERY DAY in some way, I need the visual once in awhile to truly EMBRACE all that he has for me.  I know that I can’t be alone in this, right?

We trust every day – driving on the highway that a car won’t cross the line, flying in a plane that we won’t crash – yet when it comes to trusting God, we want more.  I know that God wraps his arms around me every day, giving me comfort when I am weak and struggling.  He helps me close the door on Satan when Debbie Doubtful and Negative Nellie come to call.  He is that small voice inside my head when I reach for a piece of candy when I am not hungry.  Why do I find it so hard to EMBRACE his blessings without the “material’ things?

EMBRACE is my word for the year because this is an ongoing struggle for me.  Some days:  I can’t seem to EMBRACE the new me – the thinner one that receives complements.  I can’t seem to EMBRACE the unconditional love of my hubby when this independent, stubborn woman lashes out.  I can’t seem to EMBRACE that I deserve God’s blessings.  No, this is not a pity party, just some honest facts.

So, just for TODAY, I am trusting that God has a plan for me.  He will guide me when I swerve off course as long as I EMBRACE his love and open my heart to all he has for me.  Are you trusting and embracing God’s love and blessings for you and your family.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!