Hope Wissel

Help! My Job is Killing Me!


Thank you Mary Southerland for today’s message.

I recently stopped at a local discount store to pick up a few things. When I went to check out, the cashier looked very familiar. He must have seen the question in my eyes because he smiled and said, “It’s good to see you, Mrs. Southerland.” When I heard his voice, I immediately recognized him as the manager of a local grocery store where I frequently shopped. Before I could say one word, he explained, “I lost my job at the grocery store. Evidently, I needed to change mission fields for a while.” Now that is what I call a heavenly perspective of an earthly job.

God uses our work as one of His tools to mold us into who He wants us to be. Stress comes when we view our job as our main life mission. It isn’t. It is the God-given opportunity to provide the tools we need to accomplish our life mission.

The apostle Paul writes, “Life is worth nothing unless I use it for doing the work assigned me by the Lord Jesus – the work of telling others the Good News about God’s mighty kindness and love” (Acts 20:24, LB).

Paul worked as a tentmaker, a church planter, and an author. His purpose never changed, but his work certainly did. Many of us do not need a different job. We just need a different attitude and a new point of view about the job we have.

How do we make that happen?

Start by envisioning Jesus standing in the midst of your work place as your real boss. Then look for the life lessons God provides through your work.

God uses our work to teach us responsibility. Meeting deadlines, completing assigned tasks with excellence, showing respect for co-workers (even the abrasive ones) and working without supervision are all valuable life lessons learned on the job. When we try to cut corners, stress steps in and wreaks havoc in our attitude about work.

God uses people at work to teach us valuable lessons about relationships. Cooperation, fairness, flexibility, humility, and patience are relationship skills of a successful worker. Stress comes when we stray from the guidelines God gives us for godly relationships. Our workplace is not only one of our God-ordained mission fields, but it is also a classroom for learning to love the unlovable and forgive the unforgivable. You may very well be the only sermon your co-workers ever hear.

God uses our work to teach us how to serve. The way we serve God is by serving others. God wants us to grow spiritually at work by becoming a servant to those with whom we work. It is easy to serve the people who sit beside us in a worship service each Sunday, but a real servant serves on the job … every single day. God asks us to accept others unconditionally, encourage other continually, forgive others freely, and help others willingly.

Attitudes never sit still. They constantly move and change.

An attitude is a pattern of thinking and a filter through which we view life.

We can choose to be honest about our attitude at work, and we can choose to change our attitude about work, but most importantly, we can choose to pray for God’s attitude about our work. When we can’t change our attitude, the One who lives in us can. He can give us His attitude. Exchanging our attitude for His always eliminates stress.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

Relax, Reflect, Recharge

Does Your Light Shine?

Let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven. – Matthew 5:16

Happiness is derived from helping others, making a difference, and serving the world in your own unique way.  For me, I try to do it by helping those who are struggling.

No matter what your purpose is, let your underlying mission be to “live your life in a way people say  “There’s something different about them and I want to feel the same peace, joy, and love in my own life.”

Matthew 5:14-16 says, “You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.”

Here are five ways you can share this idea:

1. Look for ways to be a blessing.

Letting your light shine means letting all the good within you come out. In a world full of negativity, you will be amazed at the light which enters your world when you do something good.  It is like a burst of fresh air. Be sensitive to the needs of others. Find ways to be a blessing to others with simple random acts of kindness.  It can be as easy as a “thank you” or holding the door for someone, or paying for someone’s coffee.  It can be for someone you know or someone you don’t know – either way, your light with shine.

2. Refuse to be judgmental.

One of the fastest ways to turn people away from God is to judge them. And sometimes we do it without even realizing it.  Have you heard the saying “hate the act not the person”?  Basically, we can acknowledge a person has done wrong without condemning them for it.  We are all sinners and fall short every day.   We have all done things we need to be forgiven for, and by grace the grace of God,  we have received forgiveness.  Choose to pray for those you feel tempted to judge – not always an easy thing to do. Embrace and support others when they are trying to do better. .

3. Speak up for what is just.

Speak up for what is just—not right. Do you confuse being right with doing right? I know I have.  We should really be focusing more on doing right. No matter what, especially during conflict, it’s essential you treat people justly. Ensure those who cross your path are better off because they encountered you.  When in a situation where others are being cheated, disrespected, or done a disservice, let your light shine and speak up. Don’t ATTACK but do it in a direct, calm, straightforward, and nonjudgmental manner.  It may not always be easy but it is important to do.

4. Let go of the desire to fit in.

This is probably the toughest thing for this “people pleaser”.  Letting our light shine when we feel the need to fit in everywhere you go, is probably the hardest thing for me.  I am learning a simple smile, talking kindly to people can make all of the difference in the world.  When we are more concerned about being an instrument of truth and love rather than fitting in, our light will shine.

5. Don’t hide your spiritual life.

Do you have a relationship with God but pretend publicly he is not central in your life?  If God is an important part of who you are, why would you keep it to yourself?  Does it have something to do with fitting in?  I don’t mean you need to have a Bible on your desk or quote scripture all of the time. When an opportunity comes up  to share where your strength comes from or how blessed you are, be honest.  Your faith is a part of who you are. When you free yourself to be who you are, you also free others to be who they truly are.  You will also stop trying to please the world.

8330AB52.jpgHas your light dimmed in today’s crazy world?  I challenge you this week to find one way to share your light with the world.  Share how you did it with us.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

Business Tips and Tricks, Hope Wissel

A Plan for 2015

Holidays on a Thursday make getting up and doing anything on Friday SOOOO hard.  Some of you may be enjoying the luxury of staying in bed a little longer but I am off to my JOB.  I actually don’t mind my day job – I mean it is only 3 days a week.  Sorry, I squirreled for a minute!!!  No, that is not the plan for 2015!!!

I am actually excited about 2015 and my Thirty One business.  The new Jewell but Thirty One purse line is AWESOME.  There are more exciting things coming in March with the new JK by Thirty One.  I mean who wouldn’t be excited, right?

The TWO main things that will make 2015 different for me are:

1.  I am continue to heal and release my baggage of the past.  My counselor/ life coach has been a HUGE help.  I actually am starting to like myself which translates to feeling confident which translates to  growing my business and a healthier marriage.  Yes, a big jump but that is how I feel this morning.

2.  I have a plan for this year.  Not just on paper but one that I started to implement as I was working on it.  A plan with “achievements” set and even starting working some steps to achieve them

JulieAnn Jones says that there are 3 KEY steps to a successful plan:

My word for 2015 is TRUST.  Check out yesterday’s blog to read all about it.

I never really thought of my word for the year as this: “This is, essentially, the one word that would define you without any of the other markers you normally use to define you (“who” would you be without any possessions, business, spouse, children, family, pets, etc. Just you, in your body, standing where you are right now. Who are you?)”  

Based on the description above do you see me?

It seems odd that “Identify your core values” had me a little stuck.  These are the values that truly define who you are and what you must have in your life to feel fulfilled and happy and like life is worth living.  Shouldn’t everyone know what their core values are?  Before I have to hit the reset button and kick Negative Nellie to the curb – I realize that it is because I am finding ME again.  The person that seemed to be lost so many years ago.

Just for today, they are: Fun, Generous, Resourceful, Independence and Spirituality.

So, I thought that having a WORD for the year was enough but according to JulieAnn, you need a THEME too.  UGH!   This is an over-riding phrase, feeling, picture, or song for the year.

Mine is “Girls Just Want to have FUN.”

Okay so the theme may be a little retro but this is firth THEME that popped into my head. Not sure if it goes with my WORD of the year but maybe it really doesn’t have to be linked together.

In the bigger picture of 2015, I want to “trust” in the process of direct sales basics of book, sell, recruit.  I want my hostesses and customers to have fun so that they WANT to party with me again.  I, myself,  want to have FUN recapturing the passion and excitement of every day without the access baggage of the past.

What is YOUR plan for 2015?  Do you have a WORD or a THEME?  Share it below or go to my Facebook page and leave it there.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

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