Relax, Reflect, Recharge

Are You a Titus Woman?

I am blessed with many positive people in my life who encourage me, support my efforts and know just the right thing to say.  When health struggles plague me, when fear and doubt creep; I am grateful for the reminder I am blessed to be a work in progress.  I am grateful God continues to refine me to be the woman he calls me to be…

I stumbled on a blog which talked about the qualities young women should learn from older women.  I guess in years – I would be the older woman but I am still a work in progress.  Here are the qualities as they are listed in Titus 2:3-5 which says:

Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, 4 and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, 5 to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.

1) Self-Control – definitely a work in progress here.  She is self-controlled with her spending habits, her words, her temper, her appetites, her priorities, and her use of time.   Yea, I would have to stay this is a HUGE struggle for me.  I call out for help when I am in a weak moment or in a crisis .  My prayer life is getting stronger as I some to God each morning.  As she pursues intimacy with God, her soul is satisfied and she finds contentment and strength through his Spirit. For me, contentment leads to self-control and with God’s help, I work on this daily.

2) Purity.  By God’s grace, this is something I obtained over the years.  The greek word for purity here is ‘hagnos’ and is referring to moral and sexual purity.  Unfortunately this was not the case growing up, but with a gift from God – my daughter Belinda, I was able to work towards this.

3) Working at Home.  A Godly woman is not lazy – she is to be a hard worker.  Okay, I am sure God did not mean for me to be a workaholic, unable to put down the “gadgets” and stop working.  The passage does talk about being skilled in our homemaking abilities as well.   We should shine like lights in a dark world. We should love maintaining a warm cozy home for our family and those passing through.  I have never professed to be good at the homemaking abilities – dust bunnies can count on a home for a little while BUT we are always neat.  I love to care for my family at home and am really more of an introvert.  I am a work in progress..

4) Kind.  A kind woman is a woman who is careful with her words, generous, thoughtful and compassionate. She is cheerfully helpful and gracious when wronged. Without sounding like I am bragging, I would say I am kind.  This is why my career in social work was a success.  I pray each day I am able to apply the same principles to my Thirty One business.  Yes, I can look back on the work I did and say “you did well”.

5) Submissive to their own husbands.  There’s just one specific relationship where God has called us to submit and it is to our husband.  She stands out in this modern world as a woman who allows her husband to take the lead.  This is definitely a work in progress.  On most days, I am okay with this and am willing to let hubby take the lead. Then there are those days when the independent woman kicks in – and he will let me know about it.  I am grateful he understands it is not intentional but comes from years of being an independent single mom.

I talk a lot about being a Proverbs woman as Thirty One is based on Proverbs 31 – The Virtuous Woman but the description in Titus made it a little easier to see myself as a work in progress.  I am a work in progress and JUST FOR TODAY, I will continue to work on this.  What about you?

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

Hope Wissel, Relax, Reflect, Recharge

Living Under Authority

Good Morning and welcome back to Relax, Refresh and Recharge Sunday.  Over the last several days I have been struggling with authority and  submission.  Being basically a newlywed – I struggle going from a totally self-sufficient, impulse decision maker individual to submitting to my husband’s authority in our household and being a team in our marriage.  Living life under someone’s rules has been a struggle for me since my early years in addiction.  Surprising since I am usually a people pleaser.

My devotions this morning was on just this topic – okay God, I am getting the message.

“Submit yourselves to every ordinance of man for the Lord’s sake; whether it be the king, as supreme, or unto governors, as unto them that are sent by him for the punishment of evildoers, and for the praise of them that do well (1 Peter 2:13,14).

I found it interesting that the writer said that if we find it difficult to live under the physical authorities in our life, we usually have difficulty submitting to the will of God in our lives.  The issue of control keeps rearing its ugly head.  Hubby calls it an attitude when I think it is really Satan trying to cause turmoil in my life.  I have to blame someone, right?

Truth be told, I do have difficulty submitting to the will of God when I don’t know what his plan is which is why I try to practice TRUST AND BELIEVE everyday.   As a leader in my business, I have been struggling lately with living my business life by God’s will.   I say the words and I place my business at his feet but when I can’t see the outcome, I quickly want to grab back control and handle things in my own way.  I remind myself daily that God has a plan for putting people on my team or as a hostess or a customer.  Sometimes it is a lesson that I need to learn while other times it is something that they need to learn.  The learning lesson for me is a whole lot easier to understand than the lesson that others need to learn.  In the midst of the devotion, it talked about the people that are in authority over us – how sometimes we don’t like them or respect them personally but true submission to God’s authority is that we will RESPECT the position that they have in authority over us.  Such a powerful reminder of true submission to God’s plan.  I can remember telling Belinda when she did things that I didn’t like as a child – “I may not like you right now but I will ALWAYS love you”.  

So, are you living your life (personal and business) under true submission to God?  Do you quickly grab control back when you can’t see the outcome or the plan fall into place?  As for me, I will start each day placing my life under God’s submission and as hard as it might be – I will LEAVE IT there.  I challenge you to do the same.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!