Is this how you picture date night?
Is this what your date night actually looks like?
Kids, work, stress, health issues and just plain LIFE can sometimes get in the way, right? Every couple that I talk to tell me that date night is important but especially for a frazzled parent even if they struggle to fit it in.
It was easy pre-baby (or kids) days, right. Now, it isn’t easy or even possible to go anywhere or do anything planned, sometimes you just have to have things ready for a moment’s notice to take advantage of the situation. Date night can sometimes be “date lunch”. Maybe it is some “afternoon delight” – just spending some time together while the kids are at school or at a play date. The key is learning how to make the most of those down times and that doesn’t mean squeezing in more errands.
Check your calendar – schedule your date just like everything else. When we write it, it will happen. Here are some ideas for day or night that can actually coexist with parenting.
#1 – Lunch or Dinner at an Ethnic Restaurant that Neither of You Have Tried
Step out of your comfort zone, eat with your hands or sit on the floor, depending on the norms of that particular culture. Does spending money on food you have never tried scare you? Have a lunch date. Prices tend to be lower and with the kids busy at school or play dates or activities, no cost for a baby sitter. Who knows you may like it and want to go back for dinner.
#2 Have A Picnic On the Beach or at the Lake
Picnics on sunny days are always a good idea, but even better when there’s a body of water close by. Being close to the water is not only calm and refreshing to your senses, but you can even go in for a dip afterwards if you want. Is it a rainy day? You can always have an indoor picnic – remember the fun you used to have as a kid doing this?
#3 Play Tourist
When we think of sightseeing, we think of fancy getaways, majestic natural wonders, and cultural sites in faraway lands. But the truth is, we may be missing out on some pretty awesome local landmarks. “We Can See Them Anytime”, right? The truth is that we seldom do and sometimes never get to them. Google local tourist spots and plan a day trip to experience them in your area.
#4 Go to a Local Comedy Club or Open Mike Night
There are lots of amateur comedians or artists that try out their skills on local stages. They are usually nervous and unsure BUT they have a dream. Chances are that they are pretty good but lack confidence. Your encouragement can put a smile on their face. This idea is also fun as a double date or maybe even a family night with your older kids.
#5 Volunteer at a local Charitable Organization
Performing random acts of kindness for others can be a strong bonding experience. Spending a day helping others receive a meal, or assisting with building a home for the less fortunate will bring your own blessings into stark relief. Take pictures with the people you helped or with the other volunteers to show your kids. This is also a great family project.
#5 Satisfy Your Sweet Tooth
Have some cake, cupcakes, or anything that satisfies your sweet tooth at a bakery close by. After you’re done, take a relaxing stroll back home.
What are your favorite date ideas for couples and parents of children who need a day/night out?
Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!
Hope Wissel 