Hope Wissel

Self Love and the Weight Loss Journey

“Stop hating yourself for everything you aren’t. Start loving yourself for everything that you are.” ~Unknown

Happy Monday!  I am doing my happy dance because it is the weekend.  No, I am not crazy but I consider Monday and Tuesday my weekend since they are hubby’s days off.  I have office hours in the morning (while he is still asleep) but the rest of the day is devoted to spending time with him.

The last week was full of awakenings.  Since June1 is the start of Thirty One’s fiscal year, I did a reset and considered that MY new year.  Okay, so you may be thinking she is just in the pink cloud that comes the first week or so when we actually keep our New Year’s resolutions, right?

The truth is that I actually had some glimpses of how other see me and I am pretty AMAZING.  Yes, last week was that game changing.  I have put on a few pounds since reaching Lifetime as Weight Watchers – a fact.  I acknowledge it for what it is and I have moved on.  As a result in my change in attitude, I dropped 2.2 pounds this week.  Okay, so hitting the gym and the treadmill for 4 days helped but my attitude was different.

Yes, I am tracking again which keeps me accountable. Yes, I hit the gym. The biggest game changer for me was in my belief that I deserved to be at goal weight.

Here are 3 thought gremlins that I kicked to the curb this week:

1. There is something wrong with me.  

A wise woman (thank you Eryka Peskin) tole me to stop berating myself and start celebrating me.  Her Celebration Challenge over the last 2 weeks was a HUGE for me.  I don’t want to diet the rest of my life with the “I can’t have” mentality.  I am going to live my life as my skinnier self enjoying the foods that I like without condemning myself.  The berating has kept me on the diet yo-yo and stood in the way to my success.

2. I need to wait until I lose the weight.

Rewarding myself for reaching a number on the scale was not an incentive because what I really wanted was those words of affirmation.  Of course, words are great but you have to believe them.  Stop waiting! Celebrate the little wins along the way to encourage yourself to keep going. Take out the good dishes and eat on them, buy a new outfit and feel great in it now, go out on a date, LIVE!

3. They are so beautiful. I’ll never look like that.

The media including social media has us comparing our bodies to others and using it as a standard for how our body should look.  Why do we beat ourselves up wanting the hourglass figure when we are a pear shape?  Our body frames are different and no matter how hard we try, we will never look like that hour glass figure.  You are just setting yourself up for a big disappointment.

Berating ourselves, waiting to do nice things for ourselves, and comparing ourselves are not what we want to do when we want to lose weight and feel better about ourself.

Focusing on what we like about ourself, treating ourself to something special every now and then, and giving up comparisons is the way for us to be healthier and happier.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

Business Tips and Tricks, Hope Wissel

Throwback Thursday

11041755_844664748925032_8768097001057374770_n  Spring Premier 2012

Throwback Thursday,,,,,

WOW!  Thirty One had lots of different gifts in the early years.  The picture of Cindy Monroe and I was taken at my Celebrate and Connect as a NEW Director with Thirty One.  It was actually Spring Premiere in Pennsylvania.  That picture was quickly taken before the flood gates opened and I was overwhelmed by emotion.  Cindy was wonderful despite the tears rolling down my cheeks.

I had flashbacks – the good kind – while cleaning off the shelves in my office.  I was running out of room with lots of binders full of training information from the last 3 years.  WOW!  You know those binders you create when you are training but then never really look at again.

It was great reminiscing and seeing how far I have come in my journey with Thirty One.  There was even notes from that “life changing” coaching call with Hope Shortt when I connected with my emotional why to promote to Director.  I was a sponge back then.  Reading everything that I could get my hands on.  When did I find the time?  I stuck to the basics (book, sell, recruit) knowing that in the end God would provide.  

I found my first DISC profile when I didn’t even understand what the results meant personally or to my business.  I was an “S” then and I am still an “S”.  I guess that never changes which is okay with me.  I LOVE being family-oriented, loyal and easy going.

I found my CORE value top 5 which are the same today as they were then: Family, Faith, Health, Charity, Finances.  What are YOUR core values?

I found my Gift Assessment which I did in March of 2013.  My Primary Gifts were: Culture and Help.  Reading over the explanations of these gifts, I was reminded of how I grew my business.  I was able to create a culturally diverse team by attracting a wide range of people with different ethnic and religious backgrounds.  My strong desire to help other people achieve their goals and dreams has lead to consistency from 95% of my team.  My secondary gift was Connection which is all about building relationships.  A gentle reminder that when I am true to myself, relationships develop and my business will flourish.

My favorite is the Love Language Profile.  My primary love language is “words of affirmation”.  I was skeptical about this test but once I did it, I totally understood why “kind, encouraging and positive words” sent my spirits skyward.  If you haven’t done this, check it out and then share the results with your spouse and even your boss.

What did this trip down memory lane teach me?  First, doing training and then letting it sit on the shelf doesn’t help but I think that one was a no brainer.  The real lesson is to take the skills learned and incorporate them in my business.  Knowing my core values along with my gifts and my personality assessment will help me to stay focused and grounded in the things that are important to me.  When I do that, my business will soar.

I challenge you to do any of these “tests” and see what you learn.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

Business Tips and Tricks

Need Some Momentum?

Week 3 of Summer and you would think I was on a LONG vacation…I don’t know about you but I am having trouble building momentum.  Don’t get me wrong, I have parties on the books and work my business every day (well almost) but I just can’t seem to get the creative juices flowing.  In just 8 days I leave for Thirty One’s National Conference in HOTLANTA and for some reason I am having a “summer melt down”.  I know I can’t be the only one, right?

I keep reading personal development articles and searching for systems that will work for me with only a small amount of success.  Here are the latest suggestions that I found about Building Momentum:

  1. Put first things first.  I know this is on the top of every LIST that I see.  You know, tackle the most challenging task first when you are the freshest.  Prioritizing your list to help avoid distractions can also help you get things done.
  2. Remember that you are in control.   Yes, I am my own boss and I have the freedom to schedule my workday to accomplish the most important tasks.  This is a stumbling block for me.  I know, it should be a great motivator, right?  I have always been a behind the scenes kind of girl, so leading a team and taking charge is tough for me.  Running my own business is manageable but when I add the “leading a team” the stress and responsibility becomes a little overwhelming.  Which leads me into the next suggestion…
  3. Mute the negative thoughts and stay positive.  The power of positive (or negative) self-talk.  Tuning out the negative world is tough for me given my background.  I try every day to replace it with positive thoughts and motivational messages.  I even when so far as to read “The 5 Love Languages” to find out my personal profile.  Surprisingly (NOT), words of affirmation mean the most to me.
  4. Stay focused and avoid distractions.  This has gotten easier since I have a “security camera” (just a picture of one) in my office.  I also limit time on Facebook until AFTER I finish my office hours so I don’t get sucked in.
  5. Avoid negative people.  I have to say that I have been blessed with not a lot of negative people in my immediate circles.  I have some amazing cheerleaders that keep me going even though they may not know it. Thank you  Hope Shortt, Vanessa Coppes, Lynette Barbieri and a host of Thirty One sisters throughout the country.
  6. Keep a daily/weekly accomplishment tally.  I do this by marking in green highlighter those tasks that are completed in my daily planner.  I LOVE seeing all of the green to show that I have actually accomplished more than what I thought I did on any given day.

Building and keeping momentum is vital especially in the direct selling world.  The things that you do today will effect your business 3 months down the road.  I mean who wants a “summer meltdown” to effect their holiday selling season, right?  What are some of your best strategies – I would love to hear them.

Ryan Reynolds  Have a ThirtyOne-derful day.