Business Tips and Tricks, Hope Wissel

Will a Mistake End Your Business

“The greatest mistake you can make in life is continually fearing that you’ll make one.” ~Elbert Hubbard

Have you ever felt STUCK?  Have you ever had a “less than perfect” party?  Maybe gotten home from a party and realized that forgot to tell the guests LOTS of things about your product, panicked and felt like a failure?How about having a guest rattle off more facts than you did about your products? Did you ever make the decision NOT to do home parties out of fear of failing or making a mistake?  If you are in direct sales, I can almost best that fear and self doubt has crept into your thinking at some point.  Admit it, I am not alone, right?

What do you do when this happens?  Do you retreat to the “safe zone”?  Do you start to wonder if you were cut out for direct sales?  OR did you deal with the fear, embarrassment, self doubt or whatever negative feeling head on?

I had my first home party in several months and I was ready. Outline – check.  Bags packed – check.  Guests – check.  Outcome – priceless (okay, I say that now but that is not what I was thinking as I drove home).

I did all of the right things – hostess coached, posted tempting product pictures on Facebook and arrived ready to WOW every guest.  Well, after two days of being snow bound with kids these wonderful ladies were ready for a “girl’s night out”.  As we gathered around the table, these ladies were not interested in what I had to say, they were more interested in talking, looking at the product, and calling out product to see.  As I collected orders and talked to each guest I tried hard to not feel like i had failed them.

As I totaled the orders from the party to tell the hostess about her benefits, I was pleasantly surprised.  Over $500 in orders, two tentative dates for home parties AND a potential recruit.  Everyone said they had a good time and would see me again soon.

Driving home, I called hubby as I always do and said “not exactly like I planned but good”.  My main goal for each home party is to leave with more bookings. and a potential recruit is the cherry on top!  So, despite what some may consider a mistake ridden party – it was a success.

In the past, I would have spent the entire next day rehashing all that I “shoulda”, “coulda” or “woulda” done differently but I read a blog yesterday by Tiny Buddha that changed my perspective.  It helped me to see failures (real or perceived) and mistakes differently:

1. View mistakes as learning experiences and stepping-stones to get where you want to go.

We all make mistakes when we are learning. It’s the forward motion that’s important, no matter how small.

2. Stop comparing yourself to others. 

We often have unrealistic expectations of ourselves and compare ourselves to those with much greater expertise when we are just beginning. Even the experts made mistakes when they were learning.

3. Mistakes are seldom fatal.

You will live. It’s important to learn to admit that we are human, we make mistakes, and we learn from them. Mistakes are about learning, not about shame.

4. It takes guts to get up wherever you may fall, brush yourself off, and to try again. 

If the direction you are going is true to your heart, you simply need to keep honing your skills.

So, who is ready to learn from their “mistake” or “failure”, move on and ROCK their business?

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

Hope Wissel, Unclutter Your Life

Are You Keeping Yourself from Happiness

Happy Woman

Pictures like this make me smile thinking of warm weather and being outside.  The dreadful cold this winter has some of us considering a move to warmer climates while others are experiencing seasonal depression.  The truth is that some of our habits actually cause us to miss out on happiness.

Think about the great habits that we grew up with and ideals that are probably the foundation of our value system.  When you finish with these “great habits”, how do you feel?  Are you drained? In a funk?  Out of sorts? Exhausted?  Why is that when these are the things that have been instilled in many of us since we were children?

After reading an article by tinybudha.com, I started wondering about those “great habits”… see what you think

1. The habit of working hard at the exclusion of all else.

I have been and some would say that I still am a workaholic. The truth is, I feel like many years were less than rewarding, financially and emotionally, because I neglected the more essential aspects of building a career, such as creating relationships and building trust.  I really didn’t think much about building relationships until I started my direct sales career.  I mean weren’t most of us raised to be hard workers with a sense of pride. It’s what expected, right?

What to do instead: Pause long enough to examine the big picture and the situation at hand, and question your current approach. Is more work going really to give you the results you need?

2. The habit of taking care of everyone and everything else first.

Have you taken care of everyone else over the years with little thought of your own needs?  Have you become bitter?  I don’t mean nasty bitter just with the thought that you are not appreciated for what you do.  Do you fall into the martyr syndrome or poor me?  Did you ever think that you could be self-nurturing and care for everyone else too.  Maybe you are sacrificing your own well-being because you don’t want to seem “selfish.” EEKK!!!

What to do instead: Know that sacrifice does not earn the respect or gratitude of others. Being a good role model does. Take care of yourself so you’re strong and healthy for the important people in your life. It’s not selfish. It’s self-nurturing, it’s necessary, and you’re allowed.

3. The habit of responding to every call to attention—email, phone, text—right away.

Okay, so maybe I am obsessed.  My phone is set to get a variety of alerts from emails, to text to phone and even Facebook.  The truth is that it is a constant distraction that can ruin your focus, disrupt your routine, and cause problems when running a business.  I mean is there really a purse emergency?

What to do instead: Be more stingy with your time and set aside dedicated slots to respond to texts, emails, and phone calls. Unless it’s an emergency, it can wait. Because this one’s deeply ingrained, train yourself little by little to master this one.

4. The habit of doing everything for your kids, family, and more.

No hate mail please…  I am one of those that thinks they can handle everything.  When my daughter was younger, I took care of everything.  Yes, she was spoiled but I always wonder if I hindered her emotional growth.  As a wife, I tend to “take care of everything”.  Do you do everything for others instead of showing them how to do it? Sometimes people need help, but if you condition them to having you do it all the time, they never become self-sufficient. You do them and yourself a disservice.

What to do instead: Before doing the next task for the person you’re helping, ask them if they’d like to learn how to do it. Start teaching and showing more and doing less.

5. The habit of pleasing others at the expense of your own dreams and desires.

For this people pleaser, I always worry about pleasing others from my parents, to my hubby to my daughter.  Don’t get me wrong, I don’t regret any decision that I have made but now it is time for my to live my dreams and desires.  How many of us are conditioned to say “yes” to please our family and loved ones. This can be detrimental to your own happiness if you happen to want something else.

What to do instead: Be true to yourself. You can still be kind and gentle toward others, but you get one life, and your dreams and desires are your business and they deserve your best shot.

These are only a few of the great habits that had me pause and think.  What about you, have you found other good habits that get in the way of YOUR happy living?  Share them with us.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!