Business Tips and Tricks

Failure is Your Path to Success


This is a re-blog of a past blog…. by the time you read this, I will be on the road to North Carolina.  Hubby and I are going to grab breakfast at Taylor Sam’s and then be on our way.  Our goal is to be in Sylva by 10PM……Hmm???

Today is going to be Tip Tuesday courtesy of Shari Hudspeth.  One of my all time favorite trainers.  Not only did I get to hear her at Thirty One’s National Conference but I also had the opportunity to meet her at a Leadership Retreat held by my Director, Hope Shortt.

I’ve missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again. And that is why I succeed.” – Michael Jordan

What makes a person successful?  Think about it, the people who are looked up to as being successful in their field have a common thread…They have all made mistakes – many of them and often failed in their efforts to succeed.  So, what makes us any different?

Why do we look at people who are tops in their field and only see the end result – fame, fortune, success?  Have you ever said “I don’t want to set any goals because I’m afraid I won’t reach them.”?  Maybe you didn’t say it outloud but I can almost bet at some point in your business career you thought it.  For some, it is easy to toss the thought aside and move forward.  For others, the task of changing the mindset is a little bit more difficult.

Fear of failure is normal. You are not alone if you are afraid to set goals, to step out and take the action that will make your dreams a reality.  The big question we have to ask ourselves is, “Do I want it badly enough to do whatever it takes to get it?”

WOW!  That last question hits home for me because there are some days I don’t think I want it badly enough.  I make excuses why I can’t pick up the phone, book parties, or recruit new consultants.  Then there are days when I jump right in and don’t let anything stand in my way.  What’s the difference, right?  I actually keep remembering what Shari says: “Failure is your path to success.”


So what, you messed up a call – I do it all of the time.  The best laid plans go array, so what.  You ask some one to book a party, they say no – so what.  You stepped outside of your comfort zone.  Haven’t we always been told “practice makes perfect”.  Okay, so I am not shooting for perfection but I am practicing stepping out of my comfort zone.  With each mistake, I get better and better.  Things get a little easier – approaching potential customers or recruits, picking up the phone, or asking people to book a party.

I tried to have my own business before and each time I learned a lesson.  First was the premature baby clothes and learning about retail sales.  Next was being a consultant to non-profit agencies and learning how to share what I do to help them and their clients.  Now with Thirty One, I am learning every day.  I love being challenged despite the fact that Doubtful Debbie likes to stop by for a visit.

So, are you ready to step out of your comfort zone to take the action you need to so you will go in the direction of your dreams?  Take the first small step – STRETCH!  If you fail, so what.  Get up.  Dust your self off and start again.

Remember the people who you admire as a success all failed during their life so why should you be any different.

Don’t let another day go by without moving in the direction of your dreams. There is nobody more worthy of living their dreams than you are!

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!


Business Tips and Tricks, Hope Wissel



According to the dictionary the word TRY means “To make an effort to do or accomplish something”.  So it generally sounds like a good thing, right?  You are making an effort even if you may not succeed.  The other side of the TRY coin is the word FAIL.  The word that starts that spiral into the land inhabited by Negative Nellie and Doubtful Debbie.  So let’s look at how this LITTLE word can effect the way we do things in our personal and business life.

The word “try” actually means the exact opposite of doing.”  Thank you Alisha of Rockstar Mompreneurs for bringing that to my attention with a hard SMACK across the head.  TRY is a word that I use a lot.  This reality check was a true eye opener.  Who would have thought this small word would have a HUGE impact on our life.

Let’s be honest, I know that I have done this… When Belinda was growing up, the word “try” was usually my gentle way of saying NO.  I may have wanted to, planned to or even attempted but the end results was that it didn’t happen. BUT I TRIED!  Belinda may have been disappointed but as long as she thought that I made an effort to do whatever it was – all was good.  Of course, it wasn’t often that trying lead to failing but there were those times.

How about this one: You get an invitation to an event (or party) and you aren’t thrilled about going.  Maybe you want to but you have a million other things to do.  Nothing to wear.  Won’t know anyone. Too cold, too hot.  Have you been there?  I know that I have.  So, instead of saying NO, we say “I’ll try” which equals out to a maybe. The host knows that it is probably your gentle way of saying NO without hurting their feelings.  She may hold out a glimmer of hope that you will attend but “try” let her know not to count on you.

So, now let’s look at your business.

You have set a goal. Or you company has an incentive.  You are pumped and ready to take action, right?  You start making calls and talking to people. With each NO,  a little air leaks out of your bubble.  You have now gone from “I WILL” to “I am trying”.  You miss making calls for a few days.  In your head you are still trying but the truth is we really aren’t giving it our BEST.  We give the illusion that we are doing our best.  We may talk a good game.  We may make minimal effort.  So when we haven’t reached our goal or achieved that incentive that we wanted to badly, we say “We tried”. Then we come up with a million reasons why it didn’t happen.

What if we were to remove the word TRY from our vocabulary.  Never use it again.  Could you do it?  I know it is a challenge for me.

What if we substituted in power words, words that set us up for success and let others know that they can depend on us?  Do you think that would change your business?

Substitute TRY with “I will do my best to..” or “I’ll do whatever it takes to..” or “I will be certain to…”. These statements instill self-confidence.  We start to trust other and they will trust us.

We set ourselves up for success!

Let’s try an experiment and see how many times in the course of a day or week, you said the word “try”.  Each time you do, STOP and change the wording to a power statement.  Share the results of you change in thinking with us.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

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