Relax, Reflect, Recharge

Fireside Lessons

Thank you Mary Southerland for today’s message:

I have learned many lessons from my husband about how to do ministry. Dan is a people person and views strangers as friends he simply hasn’t met yet. But his heart beats for the lost man who seems to be running from God with every ounce of energy he has. Dan’s passion gave birth to the Fireside Ministry.

Every Sunday night men from all walks of life gather in our driveway around a fire pit to share what God is doing in their lives as well as the struggles they are experiencing. They ask for help. They pray for each other. Fireside time is a holy time where God shows up and works in amazing ways.

One Sunday night I slipped into the garage to grab something out of the refrigerator we keep there. When I heard Dan talking about the spaces we have to create in our lives, I stopped and listened.

For months, I had been brutally examining my life. I was very busy doing good things, but were those things ordained by God or tasks simply assigned by my own need to be seen and heard? I was tired and discouraged – ready to give up.

I sat down on the garage steps and listened as a master teacher laid out a life-changing truth for me.

Dan said, “I give Scott a hard time about his fire-building technique. But there is a truth here for all of us about the spaces we need to have in our lives. Scott cannot stand to see space in a fire. The minute one of the logs burns through, Scott jumps up and replaces it with two logs … and the fire always struggles to keep burning. Here’s why. A fire has to have space to burn its brightest. There has to be room for air to get through and fan the flames. If there are no spaces, the fire will soon die out because it can’t breathe.”

“Mary, you need space in your life … for Me,” the Father whispered to my heart.

I immediately knew what I had to do. I had to lay down every commitment, every ministry, and every log in my life at the feet of Jesus. I was smothering the power of God because there were too many logs on my fire and no space for Him to fan the flames of His plans for me.

I’ve repeatedly tried to defy my God-given need for rest, thinking that I’m somehow above both the occurrence and consequences of exhaustion. Some urgent task will always call my name, as will that person whose life will absolutely disintegrate before my eyes if I don’t do something right now. My ego loves those deadly toxic strokes that are from the pit and smell like smoke.

Stress shouts, “Get busy! There is so much to do!” Stress applauds and dances with delight as I keep on “doing” instead of “being.”

Life is so daily and often filled with uncertainty, a reality that can make me very nervous. I want to know what the plan is and how that plan is going to be implemented. Details! I need details! Instead, God calls me to rest.

I don’t want to rest.

When I rest, I feel guilty. I have places to go, people to see, and important things to do. I hear the quiet whisper of the One who knows me best and loves me most, “Mary, it is time to rest.”

In Psalm 23:2 the psalmist writes, “He lets me rest.” Don’t let that gentle statement fool you. The Revised Standard Version of the Bible says it this way, “He makes me lie down in green pastures.” I can personally testify to the fact that the word “makes” holds a world of possibilities in the hands of our creative God.

Throughout the years God has gently grabbed my attention with an illness that drove me to bed or a crisis that drove me to my knees. He is a persistent loving Father and well aware of just how much rest we need and when we need it.

We will rest – one way or another. The logs will come off and space will be created for our good and His glory. God’s love will see to it.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

 

Unclutter Your Life

Are You On the Road of Uncertainty?

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Happy Friday!

Over the last few weeks, I have felt some uncertainty.  My inner gremlins have been bumping around trying to get out.  Why?  Change…. changing the way I run my business.  Changing the way I do things at home.  Changing my diet due to health issues.  Wondering what I should be doing as a result of all of these health challenges (#mswillnotdefineme).  Change creates doubt and fear, who is with me?

So, today I want to talk about changing uncertainties into positive action.  Whether you are growing a business, running a household, starting a new job or just a new eating plan – uncertainty surrounds us.  First, know that you are NOT alone!  Fear and doubt creeps in all of the time, it is how we handle that makes the difference.

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Remember the feeling of being ready to move forward in a challenge?  Everything made sense.  You were ready to conquer the world.  You set a goal and achieved it.  Nothing could stop you.  Hold onto that feeling?  Then something happens to shake that world up.  A weight gain.  Life challenges.  Your business slows down.  You get laid off from your job.  Fear and doubt enters the picture.  Those positive feelings are replaced with doubt.  Now, not only are you uncertain about a specific situation, you have uncertainty about your life.  Right?

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Let’s kick “uncertainty” to the curb…..

  1. Set a goal. Look at the potential that surrounds you.  Healthy eating is a chance to try new foods.  Expanding your circles if growing a business is a chance to meet new people.  Exercising is a way to get healthy and meet new people.  Look at the long term effects of what this change can do for you.  The goal should be attainable with a little bit of a stretch.
  2. Admit to yourself and some one else (friend, hubby, mentor – you pick)  that you are at this place of uncertainty. I know, scary right?  It means letting someone else know you have fears and doubts.  It will also help you to step out of your comfort zone.  It’s time to dig down to the root of the uncertainty so you can move forward.
  3. Make a plan.  Make the action steps in the plan, manageable.  A little bit of a stretch but nothing that will paralyze you with fear so you don’t move forward.  Want to eat healthier?  Eliminate junk food from the house & substitute it with something that you can grab and munch on.  Maybe just start with portion control.  Want to grow your business?  Talk to new people who can help you expand your circles like: a teacher that has a school to fish from or a banker that has an entire branch and more to fish from or a preschool mom or worker that has an entire sea of committed moms and employees that would want to raise money or refresh their school or a principal who knows her staff supports her interest, and would support a fun teacher appreciation party of fellowship and fun!
  4. Commit to the goal and the action steps in your plan.  You know you can do it. Take it one day at a time or maybe even one hour at a time.  Whatever it takes, stay committed to achieving your goal.  Have fun and be consistent.
  5. Your efforts must be continuous. Don’t push hard for a few months or a few days and then let things fizzle.  Yes, life gets in the way BUT you can do it.  When you push hard all the time, you will overcome the obstacles.  New struggles will creep up but since you have achieved success once, you will be able to do it again.

What steps will you take this weekend to KICK uncertainty to the curb?  I would love to hear from you…

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!