Hope Wissel

Valentine’s Day

What does Valentine’s Day mean to you? Flowers? Chocolate? A special dinner out?

UR Loved card

For me, it is a day to celebrate the gift of love in my life that I sometimes take for granted

Parents – I know you are thinking of course, they love us they are our parents, right?  I have learned over the years that there are many who do not have this gift.  Despite my “rough years”, my parents stood by and supported me.  I just wish that I understood that when there is a divorce, it doesn’t mean that the parent that left doesn’t love you.

My Daughter – Belinda.  The day she was born, I finally GOT it!  The 6 months on bed rest, the struggles with her biological dad, the days of being a struggling single mom – I got it!  I understood about the sacrifices that a parent makes for their child no matter how it hurts.  I understood that you would do anything to take care of and protect that little person. I LOVE that she has grown up to be an independent, strong woman who wants to take on the world to make it a better place.

My hubby, Rob – a love story for the ages.  When we met back in high school, he was this blond haired, guitar playing, quiet with a smile that gave me chills kinds of guy. He was from Neptune and I was Ocean Township. Our schools were rivals and it didn’t take long for me to succumb to peer pressure. See, I was a people pleaser way back then too! We went our separate ways. We never talked again…

The summer of 2002, Belinda and I picked up the mail when I found an envelope with a return address from Rob. WOW! Memories flashed before me. Belinda wanted all of the details. I mean she had never heard of this guy and I have to admit, she was (and still is) a little protective of her mom. A roadside memorial with the name “HOPE” on it sent Rob on a hunt to make sure it wasn’t me. We emailed and then one Saturday, he showed up at a craft show to see me. To say the least, the rest is history.

We have had our ups and downs over the years. There are some days that I think he got the raw end of the deal. An overly independent woman with a child who struggles with having a step-dad.  I know there are times that he believes that I don’t need him, that he is “a pain in my butt” but the truth is, he has become my best friend. He is my Ying to my Yang. He keeps me grounded when I am ready to fly in the wind.

To day is the day that I honor LOVE. Remember that LOVE is an intense feeling with deep affection and we are meant to share it with others – family, friends or just a random act of kindness to a stranger.  I challenge you to put a smile on someone’s face to day.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

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