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Shake It Up

It’s Monday morning and I want to SHAKE it UP a little….

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 If you are like me, you have a list already of the things that you “should” do.  I should:

  • Make follow-up calls to customers
  • Call leads from vendor events
  • Step out and meet at least 5 new people to share my business
  • book at least 3 parties for the next 6 weeks
  • schedule working out at least 3 times this week
  • track my food daily

and the list goes on right with things that you really should get done this week.  Ask yourself, how much of this really will get done?  I know, you are optimistic and think that it all will.  I have been there.  Monday morning starts off on track and then by Tuesday morning, the “desire” wains and before long it is Friday and you are wondering what happened to the week.  You look back and realized that maybe 1 thing off your list is done.

Are the things on your list that you should do, the things you really want to do or are they the things that you are doing to please someone else or that someone told you would help grow your business?  Sounds weird, right? If they are on YOUR to do list, they should be the things that you want to get done.  Things that you excite or motivate you.  The truth is, when you say you should do something, more often than not, you’re doing it to please someone else or you really don’t want to do the “thing” you’re saying you should do. Your subconscious mind responds to this by keeping you stuck in procrastinating mode.  Does this should like you?

What if  you were to start the week off with a list of WANTS or any other word that excites and motivates you and urges you to go after the “thing” that you desire.  How about this:

  • I want to talk to at least 5 people per day about my business
  • I want to follow-up with at least 5 past hosts to work on filling my calendar
  • I want to refrain from putting anymore charges on my credit cards
  • I want to eat healthy this week.

Do you get the idea?  Over the next 7 days, see how many times you use that dreaded word “should” attached to an action.  Stop and think about it, is it really something you want to do.  If so, change the wording and see the profound change it will make in your life.  Simple things practiced until they become a habit will change your life.

I never thought about it but using the word SHOULD puts your desire on hold permanently. The world should doesn’t motivate, it discourages on a subconscious level.  Using the word WANT starts the journey for the how to achieve your desire. It motivates, inspires, and ignites your passion to take action for your desire.

So, I am going to change ONE WORD for one week and see how it works.  I am going to say “I should get some parties booked” to “I want to book parties for the next 6 weeks” and see what happens.  It seems so basic and so simple but what if it works.  Isn’t it worth the effort?

What is YOUR one “should” that you are going to change to a “want” this week?  Share it with us.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

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Want Not Should


Happy Monday!  WOOHOO!  I know most people hate Mondays, right?  Back to work and counting the days till the next weekend, right?  So why do I like Mondays?  Today especially because it has been a crazy busy weekend filled with work and parties.  I have been partying Thirty One style for 3 nights in a row – I LOVE IT!  My calendar has been a little light lately so I was very excited about this weekend even though I knew that I would be exhausted by the time this morning hit.

So with so much happening this past weekend, what will be my motivation to keep going this week?  For many people, being on that “busy” high would be enough.  For me (and since hubby is off for two days), I just want to wind down and do nothing.  Instead of thinking of all of the things that I “should” do, I am going to shift my focus to the things that I WANT to do. This way I can shift my energy and hopefully see better results of my efforts…

Here is my list for the week, short but filled with lots of potential:

I want to book a fundraiser for November.

I want to book 2 parties for December.

I want to close out the month of October with $4000 in sales

I want to follow-up with all of my vendor event contacts from the last two weeks.

I want to block out quality time for hubby.

So, why did I change to the word WANT instead of SHOULD.  Using the word SHOULD puts your desire on hold permanently. The word should doesn’t motivate, it discourages on a subconscious level. Did you know that?

 Using the word WANT starts the journey for the how to achieve your desire. It motivates, inspires, and ignites your passion to take action for your desire.

If you live your life pleasing others (including family) you’ll create a lifestyle doing things you should do instead of doing things that you want to do. Be diligent! Watch your words! Practice saying I WANT (or some other word or phrase that inspires action) instead of saying I SHOULD.

I have tried this before but I usually fall back into the “I should” mode but with the help of my new counselor/life coach, this  new way of thinking WILL stick.  See how positive I am?

The truth is that a simple mindset change, will work like magic and it WILL change your life.  I know it sounds too basic but it is true… Try it for a week and see what happens.  Eliminate the word should from your vocabulary and see how freeing it is..

Let us know if this shift has any impact on your life. Remember that “if you keep doing the same thing, you will reap the same benefits”.  Just one small baby step may make all of the difference in the outcome of your week.

Nothing works for everyone, but if you want it to work for you it will.

Have  a ThirtyOne-derful day!