At Thirty One’s National Conference, I had the honor of hearing from Debbie Phillips founder of Women on Fire. Since then, I have been following their blog “The Spark” which always has a message that I need at just the right moment. This one was a gentle reminder of not only the mistakes that we make as women – I know, who wants to be reminded of mistakes, right? It also shared the formula for heading towards the life that you truly want for yourself.
So here goes…
1) Women fail to cheer on the successes of other women. Former Secretary of State Madeleine Albright has said, “I think there is a special place in Hell for women who don’t support other women.” We agree! When we cheer on each other, it inspires “a rising tide to lifts all boats.”
I am grateful that at Thirty One, we do CELEBRATE – ENCOURAGE – REWARD each other for our successes.
2) We fail to ask for help and take everyone on ourselves. Often becoming martyrs in the process. Enough said!
My hubby would say this is me. I never seem to think of it that way, it just is something that I have always done – take care of everyone. The word NO is seldom in my vocabulary.
3) We compare ourselves to others. We often look at what other women have and do and then we feel less than. I’m here to say that there will always be women smarter, wealthier, thinner, best dressed and with better behaved children, so we need to STOP comparing ourselves to anyone other than our own goals, dreams and desires. And measure against that!
GUILTY! This is probably my biggest mistake.
So Women on Fire F.I.R.E. has a formula to focus on living the life you truly want:
F — Friends — Surround yourself with positive, uplifting women (hey, you’re here so I know you’re doing that!) who will cheer you on and support you. Minimize your contact with “friends” who mock you, ignore your successes, and are negative, toxic and draining. Working on this every day. This is part of why I not only LOVE spending time with my Thirty One sisters but all with my ETTM peeps.
I — Inspiration — Find a way each and every day to inspire yourself. I keep a stack of books filled with inspiration on my bedside table. I open up to any passage in any of the books and am guaranteed to find a way to start my day out on a positive note! This one is a little tougher for me. I am trying to do a meditation every morning to help jumpstart my day on a positive and inspiring note.
R — Resources — You need the best resources when you’re going after your dreams to save yourself time and money. The best sources are often friends, family and colleagues who are willing to provide you with tried-and-true resources and contacts. Thankfully, I have access to LOTS of resources (systems), the problem is that I don’t always use them. Or just the reverse, I want to try them all and get lost in the mix.
E — Easy — If going for your dreams feel hard (and that is different from sometimes feeling challenged as you pursue your dreams) or if you can’t stay focused on what you want, then maybe it’s time to re-evaluate your dreams and goals. You may face tough times when pursuing your vision, but it should feel natural and easy that it is the right thing. WOW! This is one always gets me to thinking….
So, are YOU on the road to living the life that you truly want OR are you caught up in making mistakes? Share your journey with us..
Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!