Business Tips and Tricks, Hope Wissel

Balance and Self-Care



It’s Friday! The FIRST official weekend of the summer, right?  The kids are out of school.  You have already heard “I’m bored” more times then you can count.  You are trying to figure out how to balance (or juggle) your business, personal commitments and enjoying life while the kids are home for the summer.

Who said that having your own business was less stress?  Did you think that once you made the decision to be a Work at Home Mom that the “work stress” would just magically disappear?  Are you wondering at times, why did I leave my JOB for this?

The problem is not your business – the problem is YOU!  You have let yourself fall into the trap of being indispensable. It is time for a CHANGE!  You need to decide that you will have a balanced life; not just wish or want it.  Take a moment and visualize what that would look like.

Imagine working your business for a few hours every day.  Imagine that once the work is done, you spend uninterrupted time with family.  Imagine that you are NOT constantly checking your email or Facebook accounts.  Imagine that you turn OFF your phone for just a few hours every day for uninterrupted family time or self-care.  How does that sound?  Like Heaven, right?

Isn’t it strange the double standards that we use when we talk about the digital world.  How many times have you yelled at the kids to put their cell phones away during dinner?  How many times do you go out to dinner and banish the digital world so you can talk to each other?  Where did our kids learn this?  Believe it or not, they are just following in your footsteps.  Think about how many times you answer the phone or check email/ Facebook when you are out with the kids.  The “this will only take a minute” turns into hours or you “hushing” them so you can talk.

I speak from experience.  I was a single mom with my own business – guilty on all counts.  At 27, my daughter will tell you “mom was always working”.   The first time she remembers me turning off my cell and NOT answering it was our first cruise.  I was at every team practice and every game/ competition.  I was the mom who shuttled kids around for busy “working moms”.  BUT I seldom turned off the digital devices and I was definitely a multi-tasking woman.  Proud of and willing to boast that I was a GREAT multi-tasker.  The truth was that I was a stressed momma who longed for balance.

Believe it or not, the BEST way to lead a balanced life is committing to SELF-CARE!  I know you are saying, when do I have time, right?

Ask yourself this, Are you taking care of yourself so that YOU will be a better employee for YOU?!  If you are like me, YOU are always on the bottom of the list.  The truth is the better I take care of myself, the more motivated I am and the more effective I am when working.  As a result, I can be present with my family.  Making sure that time for you is on the to-do list will definitely help with getting and keeping some balance in your life.

Women are the core of the family; we cannot fully give to our family and our business if we do not take proper care of ourselves.

You need an action plan. I am sure you have heard “If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got.”  It is time to find some new skills to put into action and make a commitment to change so that you can reach your goal of having a balanced life.

I challenge you to do some self-care today and then CELEBRATE it!  What will you do?

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!



Business Tips and Tricks, Hope Wissel, Unclutter Your Life

Are You Organized

I read a quote by a fellow blogger, Cheryl Richardson who is a spirituality and self-help author.  Does this sound like your office (or house):

“Stuff has tentacles. Every pile of paper, cluttered counter, or disorganized closet is filled with items that have cords attached to them. These cords reach out and suck the energy from us whether we’re near the stuff or not.”

I don’t know about you but I would have to agree with her, at least in my office. When my office is cluttered, I can’t think or make calls, or work.  I know a great excuse NOT to pick up the 500lb. phone, right?

What if you could CUT those tentacles?  What if you could purge all of the stuff out of your office (or your home) that doesn’t matter to you.  I have written about Belinda’s saying when I used to get in those “clean moods“.  “Watch out, mom will toss you out if you aren’t attached or have a purpose”.  The truth is when I was done, I functioned so much better.  Some would say it is feng shui.  Others might say I am a nut case. Either way, organization helps us to stay focused and on track.

Here are some options to those organizational problems in your home or your office:

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The Your Way Junior Cube, Your Way Cub and the Your Way Rectangle all have lids which can be added to your purchase.  I love that our cubes are solid for personalization on one side while the other side has a clear opening so you can actually see what is inside.  Wouldn’t it be great to just turn the cubes around and put the lid on when company comes to visit?

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As for your office, the Fold N File can be placed inside our Zip Top Organizing Tote so that you now have a mobile office.  No need to transfer only a few files to another bag – take the whole thing with you.

What if you touched each piece of paper (or email) only ONCE?  I know, crazy right?  The truth is it is possible.  I used this system for years in the non-profit (and corporate) world.  It made life so easy.  I am not sure why I have such a problem in my home office.

This year is my year of systems and organization….I have cubes in the bedroom to keep things organized.  My office looks great with all of the organization products, now it is time to implement the systems I have borrowed from some of my Thirty One sisters.

What will help you get organized this year?  Not sure if our products will meet your needs – how about a product experience.  A NO obligation one hour consultation.  You get to try the products to see if they will meet your needs.  If they do, I will help you find the best deal for you.  If not, it is okay – I will be grateful for the chance to meet some new people and share the gift of Thirty One.

So, who is ready to get organized?  Fill out the contact form and let’s get started.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

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Business Tips and Tricks, Hope Wissel

Kids And Direct Sales

Happy Monday!  I hope that everyone had a GREAT weekend.  It was a ThirtyOne-derful one for me with a Leadership training in Radnor, PA on Saturday (more about that in my next blog) and a party in Morristown with some AMAZING women.  I LOVE road trips and the chance to share Thirty One with so many women.

As you know, I have set a goal to PROMOTE; with that comes the need to recruit more team members.  I want to thank JulieAnn Jones for another AWESOME blog.  If you asked my daughter what it was like having a work at home mom (a solo-preneur at the time) she would have said “you get used to her working all of the time” or the other side of that is “my mom is always able to go with me to practice, games, etc.”.  Our life during Belinda’s high school days had a wide range of highs and lows.  It was great that I could be a part of her life but on the other hand, it meant that many times I took work with me.  Remember me talking about the workaholic side of me, right?

Finding balance is tough but most days, I have it down.  I mean I even left the phone alone while we were away in North Carolina as amazing as it was to some…  JulieAnn talked about “what kids gain by having a direct sales mom” so if you even considered doing what I do (or with any other company) here are some things that are an added plus for your kids:

  • Your kids know what you do for a living because they see you do it every day. I think this gives them a greater appreciation for where the money you use to buy them things comes from.  I don’t know about the greater appreciation for money but it did create the desire to be her own boss.
  • They learn the meaning of commitment and see the payoffs for the time you invest in your direct sales business.  Belinda acquired my work ethic and thankfully, she is NOT a workaholic.
  • If you’re earning company incentive trips, they get to go on some pretty cool vacations.  We are working on this one but going to National Conference was a fun free trip too!
  • If you work your direct sales business exclusively (meaning you don’t go to another job), they have the benefit of a full time mom. You’re there for school activities during the school year and camps/swimming/play dates, etc. during the summer.  Think of the money you are saving on child care and all of the fun things you get to do with your kids.

So, what do you think?  Would you love to be a stay at home and still make some extra money?  Would you love to earn FREE trips, meet new people AND get paid?  Why not look into direct sales – of course I would say Thirty One because I BELIEVE they are the BEST!  Okay, so I am a little partial….

Would you like me to share more information on the gift of Thirty One?  Contact me and I will be happy to talk with you about all that we have to offer.  If Thirty One isn’t for you, check out many of the other direct sales companies – I have LOTS of connections and would be happy to share your name with some of my friends…

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!


Business Tips and Tricks, Hope Wissel

Don’t Just Sponsor, HIRE!

In direct sales, we are taught that to grow in leadership we need to recruit new members to our team.  As I have shared in the past, I originally FELL into leadership.  Sometimes I think it was easier when I didn’t know what I was doing except sharing the gift that was given to me.  The more I know, the harder it seems to be for me.

Over the last week, I have seen blogs, Facebook training postings and taken a class with Shining Stars University all focusing on this topic.  Do you think someone is trying to tell me something?  See if any of this sounds like you:

Can you spot a recruit?  Are you actively LOOKING for someone who would be great for your direct sales opportunity?  Maybe you are missing the ones that are right under your nose?  Here are some cues that came from “My Direct Selling” blog – Do you know someone who: has purchased product from you, wants to work from home, needs some extra money, wants to make a change in her life, has great self confidence, takes over at the parties you are hosting to help everyone?  Have you offered her the opportunity or have you missed those cues?  As I look back on some of my parties, I can almost guarantee that I have missed those cues and more.  I was busy answering questions and helping customers to pick out products forgetting to observe what was happening in the rest of the room.

Here are the FOUR top reasons that we may not be sharing with others:  
  1. Fear of rejection.  GET OVER IT!  I know, easier said then done, for me at least.  The word “NO” is nothing personal and may only mean at this time.  Planting a seed may bear a flower (or a new recruit) later on.
  2. Fear of being pushy.  In this case, we are probably thinking of ourselves and not about the potential recruit. It may be we are just imposing our past negative situations on this potential recruiting opportunity.  Share your fear with the potential recruit – let her know that you are human.   Let her know that you don’t want to be pushy but you noticed that she would be great at this.  Be honest and forthright, your prospect will respect you.  In most cases, they will listen to you as well.
  3. Not ready for leadership.  I know I wasn’t.  I had no clue on how to lead a team.  It just happened.  The truth is that the best way to increase your income is to grow a team.  Work smarter not harder.
  4. Don’t want to step out of our comfort zone. WOW!  This is always a big one for me.  I am growing and stepping out more but in this area, it is still a problem.  
Just like any other business, we need to OFFER the business opportunity (job) to everyone as if there is lots of openings that need to be filled.  Some will jump on board while others may hesitate and still others will outright refuse.  In direct sales, we can’t hang a help wanted sign on the door and wait for people to walk in.  We need to watch for those cues at parties or when we are talking to people so that we can OFFER them the opportunity.

Are you ready to offer the opportunity?  Are you willing to share the gift that was given to you with others so they can change their lives too?  I would love to hear from others about your ideas on recruiting…

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

Hope Wissel

Working for Yourself

Today, I am off sharing Thirty One at the Family Wellness & Beauty Day at Shido Martial Arts in Freehold, NJ.  All monies raised from the $10 tickets will be donated to We’re Kickin It AntiBullying Program.  I can do things like this because I am my own boss!

When I first went to work, I never wanted to be my own boss but as I got older, had my daughter and saw what I was missing as a single mom – that changed.  I took the skills I learned in grants management for a non-profit and opened my first business “H.O.P.E. Consultants”. I worked for 4 years while my daughter was in High School as my own boss.  Then I found a grassroots non-profit that I wanted to help so I joined the Monday-Friday workforce again.  After 6 years, I left that job that I LOVED (and hated – LOL) to go back into business for myself as a Direct Sales Consultant.  Why?  The freedom to make my own hours and no commute to work far outweighed the cons to owning your own business.  

Here is an portion on an article that was in Forbes about What to Expect When You Work For Yourself…

So do you have what it takes to be your own boss? Here are some hurdles you will certainly face if you decide to go off on your own:
Obstacle: It’s Just You:   If you become a sole proprietor or member of a small business, all responsibilities fall on you. Or maybe it’s not just you; perhaps you’ll have new employees or interns to manage, and this might be new territory. You’ll also be managing your own schedule, which can be difficult if you’re used to structure. You might be able to adapt to these changes, but personality can play a large role in what you’re comfortable with. Personally, I’m a bit of a control freak so I love having a hand in every aspect of our business. Time management took a bit longer to master, but I now know how to maximize my productivity.  Advantage: It’s just you! No more office politics, micromanagement, or working for someone who doesn’t appreciate you– the list goes on and on.
Obstacle: Blending Your Work Life with Your Home Life:  Most people enjoy that an office job gives them the ability to, both physically and mentally, leave their work at the office. This can be tricky to maneuver if you’re now working in your home, and could also be an obstacle for those you live with. You may benefit from renting a separate office space, but this isn’t always practical. After years of working from home, setting up a separate area for our books and “office” has helped us to stay more organized. It also prevents our business from intruding into every aspect of our personal lives– for the most part.  Advantage: No commuting! And blending might not be bad at all if you build your business around something you’re personally passionate about.
Obstacle: You Will Work Longer and Harder Than Ever Before:  You’’ve probably heard entrepreneurs say “I work from the minute I wake up until the minute I go to sleep.” It may not be like this all the time, but for the most part, it is absolutely true. It will be especially true in the beginning, as you’ll need to do whatever it takes to get your startup going.  Advantage: You will work longer and harder, but it’s ultimately for your own gain. Nothing is more satisfying than that! While you will make time sacrifices, you’ll also have more flexibility. I’’ve gotten over the fact that I will work during every Super Bowl for the foreseeable future (and I am a huge football fan!) because I have a trade show that weekend every year. But even though I work most weekends and many holidays, I ultimately have the ability to change my schedule when I really need to.
There are certainly sacrifices toward owning your own business, but for successful entrepreneurs, the advantages far outweigh the difficulties.
Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!