Hope Wissel, Personal Causes

Truths Not Shared


The best laid plans go out the door….. Remember when I said that hubby and I were scheduling office hours for me?  That worked great for about two weeks THEN we didn’t compare our schedules.  For some reason this week has been a struggle.  The lack of accountability to my hubby seemed to throw me into a tail spin.  Was it that or could I blame it on some health issues?  Either way, I don’t feel as productive as I have the past two weeks.

I saw a great blog by Traci Bild who I actually had the privilege to meet at the Mom Grows a Business Conference.  She talked about the “7 Truths that Women are Afraid to Share“.  Here awesome excerpts, see if any of them apply to you:

1. We’re Guilty, like ALL the time: WOW!  I thought I was the only one that del like this, so nice to know that I am not alone.  Most of the time, I just feel guilty about silly stuff – according to hubby.  The word “sorry” is something that I say a lot and most of the time it is for stuff that I can’t even do anything about.

2. We WORRY about EVERYTHING: There is never enough time in the day and no matter how hard you try, you will never get everything done. There is simply too much to do.  Is your To Do List way too long with things that could probably be done with the help of others?

3. We’re Letting our Health Slip:  Thankfully, I don’t have a serious illness but I do let my health concerns slip.  After nursing hubby back to health last year, I focus on him and his appointments.  The thing is when he starts to focus on health concerns he has for me, I just push them away saying “I am fine”.  Sound familiar?

4. Our Work-Life Balance Looks Like a 2-year-old on a Balance Beam: A nice term, most women simply can’t strike it. So busy living life, you don’t have time to work ON your life and find ways to create balance.  I LOVE this as a recovering workaholic.  My feeble attempt to work on this balance was to take the notifications off of my phone so the only time it “rings” is for an actually call OR a text message.  Novel concept huh?

5. Our love lives are on the Back Burner:  GUILTY!  Enough said.

6. We are in Constant Comparison Mode:  From my ability to maintain my goal weight, to the amount of dust bunnies taking up residence behind the couch to my business compared to others…this is me to the hilt!  Social media plays a factor in this craziness for me which is why I have left groups, unfollower people and just try to limit my time on Facebook.  Forget about the other forms of social media, I don’t even check them.   Spend more time living your life than watching others live theirs.  

7. We’re Still Not Happy!: The end result is that people are not happy. While women have more opportunity than ever before, we are more unhappy than at any other time in history. You have the power to create happiness but that requires tough decisions, laser focus on your priorities and standing by them at all cost.

So, how many of these truths are you?  Let’s be honest with each other…Just for today, I am going to focus on me, my business and spend some quality time with hubby (who took an extra day off).

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!


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Workaholics Day – July 5th

I know that there are lots of “special days” celebrated for many reasons but this is definitely a new one – for me!  Vanessa Coppes and I actually joked about this yesterday while we were working and blogging on the morning of the July 4th holiday.   Anyone know if there is a Blogger Day?  Let me know, I definitely want to celebrate that day.

rtc_june_5_workaholic_fullAccording to Punchbowl which helps you plan a party from start to finish – July 5th is Workaholics Day!  By definition, a workaholic is a person who is addicted to work.  Generally it implies that the person enjoys their work and they feel compelled to do it.  According to an article on Webmd, a workaholic is a life out of balance with key signs to  that you are in trouble.  Does this sound like you?

  • Trouble delegating work
  • Neglecting other aspects of your life (family, special events, vacations, etc) to work
  • Incorporating other aspects of your life into work (turning a hobby into a new business)

So, if I have just described you – TODAY is dedicated to you.  It is a time for you to step back and take it easy.  Do some mindless activity that you enjoy – read a book for fun, take a nap, take a walk on the beach or spend some time watching YouTube videos.  If you are the friend or family member of a workaholic, CELEBRATE – ENCOURAGE – REWARD them for their accomplishments today.

As for me, I an a recovering workaholic.  Family and friends used to take a back seat to my job – I used to call it passion.  Now, my passion is owning my own business.   Yes, I always have a catalog with me.  Yes, I am always ready to share about the way that Thirty One has changed my life.  Yes, I love that every time I go to work – I get to PARTY!  The difference is that I now take time to dedicate it to my hubby especially on his days off.  I still slack in the family time area but I am a work in progress.

I challenge you to look at your life and do a double check – do you have a healthy work-life balance?  If not, what are you ready to do about it?  Please share how you will be celebrating today

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

Hope Wissel

Super______________(Fill in the Blank)

This morning while reading my morning devotional emails, one struck me with an “AHA” moment.  Now I have read it (and heard it) before but today it really hit me – Did you know that “Super Mom (or fill in the blank with anything that fits you) is a Fairy Tale!  This morning’s devotional on ibelieve was a great story that made me think about where I am today…

Since Belinda is grown and I have passed the “super mom” stage in my life, it doesn’t mean that I am not still trying to be “Super Wife” or “Super Consultant/Director”. In the past, I wasn’t trying to be anything – I was just juggling all of the balls (work, Belinda’s cheering schedule, house, family, church, etc) and most days it seemed to work. Now, I am learning how to juggle (or the new word is “balance) new things. This statement stood out for me “When you look around and see other mothers who appear to be “mothering” better than you, don’t be fooled. They are probably doing whatever it takes….”.  Yes, I still compare myself to others.  Yes, I am still trying to do it all.  This morning I am re-grouping, remembering how I use to do the “super mom” thing and applying it to the new struggles in my life  

I am trying to be “Super Consultant”, “Super Wife”, “Super Family Member” and “Super Employee (at my part-time job)”.  GUESS WHAT???? I felt like I was failing in all areas then I read this line in the article Successful mothers are not the ones who have never struggled. They are the ones who never give up, despite the struggles.”  For me, the word “balance” seemed to create new visions of how my life/ schedule should be in a perfect world.  In reality, I need to just learn (or re-learn) how to manage my time and my schedule.  

Are you trying to be “Super ________”?  The greatest gift I got this morning was the realization that I don’t have to be SUPER ANYTHING!  Sounds basic, right?  For those of us who continue to compare ourselves to friends who seem to have it all together, to advertising about those who manage everything (including being at their ideal weight) – it is not easy.  It is a daily struggle.  So, I am going back to something I learned in rehab so many years ago – “one day at a time”.  I tend to look at the BIG picture and lose sight of the small things that need to be done but to get out of the workaholic – super mode, I need to step back to what kept me sane on any given day.  Just for today, I am going to make a list of things to get done, stop feeling like I have to answer emails within seconds of receiving them, stop stalking Facebook and just do what I have to do.

When life gets crazy and I begin thinking about pulling all nighters to get things done – I will revert to the prayer that gave me strength when I was weak…
God grant me 
the serenity to accept the things I can not change,
the courage to change the things I can,
the wisdom to know the difference.
Your will not mine be done!

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day.