Today is all about YOU! Struggling with health issues (or any stress) can take a toll on you in many ways. It can effect you mentally, physically and spiritually. And as a result, your relationships may suffer.
Has stress caused you to feel like there’s no more passion or excitement in your relationship? Do you only see frustration? Despite the stress, there are some ways to reignite the passion. Here are some tips that I found in a recent article:
Date yourself. Be sure to take care of yourself first and stop feeling guilty about it! I know it can be tough – I have been there, done that and I have a multitude of tee shirts! The most important thing is to de-stress, keep up on your hygiene (mani-pedis are great), exercise, eat well, do things that make YOU feel pretty and sexy. Let’s be honest, when we feel tired, bloated, in pain, etc. it is tough to see the positives in others. Taking care of yourself sets you up to focus and be present in the moment.
Get educated. I don’t mean going back to school, who has time for that! Have an open and honest conversation with your health care provider. You will be amazed at the things that affect your body and how excited we get with our partner. Sometimes those feelings are the start of other health issues.
Date your partner. I’m not talking about the usual going out to dinner weekly to the same old place, the same old-time and the same bat channel! I mean schedule a time have fun with your partner! When was the last time that you locked the bedroom door and played a card game on the bed! Or went to the park and played on the swings?
Communicate. Communication is the number one key in a long-term relationship along with touch! No matter how well you know your partner you are NOT a mind reader. Despite the fact that many may think you are! Misunderstandings can lead to a lot of frustrations. Learn to LISTEN while you are sharing your thoughts and ideas.
Try something new. There are so many fun and exciting new things to add to your relationship just between the two of you. You can do something spontaneous like play hookie and head to the beach or lakeside for a couple of hours. Stress causes us to get into a routine, a comfy spot – break out of that comfort zone!
Reflect. Think about the things that were so thrilling and fun when you first got together! What were some things you did for your partner that they loved when you first started dating? Why not recreate those experiences? If you don’t remember, have a conversation and ASK what they remember most about when you were first dating. You may be surprised at the things that meant so much to them that you didn’t think about.
Take a vacation alone. Isn’t the old saying “absence makes the hear grow fonder”?The truth is that alone time gives you time to reflect and regenerate your own energy. Gives you time to do self-care things without the judgement of someone else. It also interrupts the routine, “wakes you up” in a sense and you start to become aware of the things you love most about your partner, the things that make you feel incomplete without them.
See your partner at their BEST. I can’t stress this one enough. If you are constantly frustrated with your partner or dreading being with them then try changing those thoughts. Make a list of everything you like and love about them and start paying attention to those things. In the morning say to yourself 3 new things you’re thankful for about them do this for at least 21 days and you’ll see a significant turn around!
What is your best tip for rekindle your relationship? Share it with us.
Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!
Hope Wissel 